Can a CP use the excuse that she will get fired if she requests to have to take off overtime work on a Saturday to drop off her child under 3?

Some more info.- The CP came up with the provision I guess for the decree to let the NCO only have the child under 3 for 10-2 on saturdays until she is 2 then its from 10-4. But the NCP must visit at least 1 saturday a month six times in a row before the next bday. Agreed and signed the decree. There is also a 6 yr old that is picked up on fridays after 6pm and is kept till sunday at 6pm. The CP just says no I’m not bringing her I’ll just bring her when its conveinent for me, she says. (They live 100 miles apart or more, but it is also written of designated meeting places as well). Can she do that pick and choose when she will meet to drop off the child when its not being agreed upon? I thought if there couldn’t be an agreement on both parties it falls back to Standard Order in decree? The decree states that the NCP shall pick two weekends per month of their choice with 14 days in advance notification. Which is done and actually kept on 1st 3rd and 5th weekends to make things easier.

A list of dates of when the NCP will be visiting with the girls was given early Decemeber, so that she may notify her employer if advance. The NCP already notified her (CP) that he will not be able to visit onthe 1st weekend (one the the weekends he picked and notified her in Dec.) but the he will be picking up on the 17th weekend (the other weekend she was notified of in Dec.) The CP stated sorry I have plans that weekend you will have to pick another weekend since that wasnt a date you picked. But after reviewing the email sent in Dec. it indeed was one of the, plus its the 3rd wkend of month.

The child under 3 stays with the grandparents while she is at work and according to the 6yr old they both stay with the grandparents everyweekend that they arent picked up by their father. Is the NCP doing something wrong here?? How is he able to see his under 3 child, if the CP keeps making excuses and matters worse? Especially, if the Grandparents are capable of dropping off or any other competent adult so that she is following the decree. Wouldn’t it just be easier for everyone involved for the child under 3 to just spend the same time as the 6yr. old?

Can a CP use the excuse that she will get fired if she requests to have to take off overtime work on a Saturday to drop off her child under 3?

Some more info.- The CP came up with the provision I guess for the decree to let the NCO only have the child under 3 for 10-2 on saturdays until she is 2 then its from 10-4. But the NCP must visit at least 1 saturday a month six times in a row before the next bday. Agreed and signed the decree. There is also a 6 yr old that is picked up on fridays after 6pm and is kept till sunday at 6pm. The CP just says no I’m not bringing her I’ll just bring her when its conveinent for me, she says. (They live 100 miles apart or more, but it is also written of designated meeting places as well). Can she do that pick and choose when she will meet to drop off the child when its not being agreed upon? I thought if there couldn’t be an agreement on both parties it falls back to Standard Order in decree? The decree states that the NCP shall pick two weekends per month of their choice with 14 days in advance notification. Which is done and actually kept on 1st 3rd and 5th weekends to make things easier.
A list of dates of when the NCP will be visiting with the girls was given early Decemeber, so that she may notify her employer if advance. The child under 3 stays with the grandparents while she is at work and according to the 6yr old they both stay with the grandparents everyweekend that they arent picked up by their father. Is the NCP doing something wrong here??

Sorry if I’m being argumentative. A grandparent’s “rights” do NOT trump the actual parents. Like the one person said, every situation is different, but all too often grandparents act as meddling in-laws and don’t respect boundaries. Even if their presence benefits a child’s life, the parents shouldn’t have to tolerate them if they’re being that way.

I don’t have to justify my parenting preferences to my wife’s mother or father, nor my wife to my own father or mother, and thankfully all 4 of them are respectful. But in other situations where grandparents are not respectful, the parents should absolutely be able to send them packing the same as they would anyone else.

Your “right” to be in my kid’s life ends the minute you come around here acting all high & mighty and judgmental just because I don’t do like you and keep a spotless house like Martha Stewart or cook homemade biscuits like I’m Aunt Jemima. I’ve had people do that to me, and they were cut-off immediately. If any of those 4 started being that way, grandparents or not, I’d do the same thing in a heartbeat. Yes, if they were to apologize, I’d let them back in, I forgive that way–but short of that, you’re out of here. I’m not in church & I don’t need to listen to anyone’s sermon whose opinion I don’t solicit.

LRH