holidays and divorce

In my last post I went over tips to survive Halloween during divorce. As the holidays progressed I read more good articles on how to help your kids survive the holidays in the midst of a divorce. Dick Price posted an article entitled “7 Ways to Wreck Your Kids Holidays”, and J. Benjamin Stevens posted “Tips to Follow for Holiday Parenting Time”. These are great articles, and there are many more like it.

As I read these articles it got me thinking about who the articles were intended for and I noticed a common theme, or lack thereof. What about you? Separated or divorced parents can find new gaps in their life that were once filled with sports, dance class and of course the holidays. What to do?
There are many things you can do, but I suggest you take up a hobby. Never had a hobby? Now is the perfect time.
The one that jumps out at me is exercise. I love to exercise. Looking for something more than the standard treadmill on LA Fitness? Try Crossfit. I guarantee it will be the most challenging and rewarding exercise you have ever done. Local to the Dallas, Texas area? Check out Crossfit Deep Ellum. From somewhere else, search Crossfit and your local city. Like to bike? In Plano, Dallas, or surrounding areas, check out DORBA. Somewhere else, search Mountain Biking and your city.
Not an exercise buff? How about photography or videography? Check out Vimeo and of course YouTube. How about cooking?
The point is, there are many things you can do for yourself to fill in the time once occupied by children’s activities. All of us have things that we want to do but could never find the time. Now you have the time. Take care of your kids and take care of yourself!

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9 Responses to holidays and divorce

  1. Anonymous January 20, 2010 at 2:49 pm #

    can you take away the right for a grandparent to see a grandchild just because you don't want your child around the grandparents

  2. Chris Schmiedeke January 21, 2010 at 9:01 am #

    Anonymous, that depends on whether it is Court ordered or not.

    If it is, then you have to ask the court to terminate the visitation. If it is not Court ordered then typically the parent can determine who the child does and does not visit with.

    Good Luck.

  3. Anonymous January 21, 2010 at 4:56 pm #

    thank you for your help, and its not court ordered for the grandchild to see the grandparents. but can the grandparents take the parents to court to get visitation rights.

  4. Chris Schmiedeke January 22, 2010 at 7:54 am #

    Can they? Yes. Will they prevail? Doubtful. I have posted on this blog a few times about grandparent rights. I think you will be able to find your answers there.

    In addition to those posts, the Texas Legislature has made it even more difficult for grandparent by requiring them to file an affidavit with the original suit that a judge will then review and see if they even come close to meeting the grandparent requirements. If they do not, the case will be dismissed.

  5. Anonymous January 26, 2010 at 8:00 pm #

    thank you again, i understand that the grandparents can go to court for visitation rights but i don't want my parents to see my son at all because they were abusive physically and mentally while i was growing up and made me move out of my house at the age of 17 with no where to go so i really don't want my son around that. my husband also agrees with me because he has seen some of the things they have done so if i could prove that could i make it to where they could never see him. or can i have our lawyer draw up paper to where they can not see him of is that even possible.

  6. Chris Schmiedeke February 2, 2010 at 12:43 pm #

    Anonymous, that is what I am telling you. You do not have to allow the grandparents access to the child at all. You do not need a court order, nothing, just don't let them see the child unless there is a court order saying that they can see the child.

    If the grandparents dislike that they can attempt to file a visitation lawsuit which is very difficult to do now, if not impossible, as stated above.

    I assume that you live in Texas. If you do not, then you will need to check with a lawyer on your states grandparent rights.

  7. Brenton February 3, 2010 at 9:49 pm #

    Hmm, something to think about isn't it. Thanks Chris.

  8. Amy April 23, 2010 at 10:19 am #

    can you take away the right for a grandparent to see a grandchild just because you don’t want your child around the grandparents


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